I wanted to write about something I have been thinking about
lately and much of my life, the power of words (I'm an English Literature
minor who loves to read...). Spoken or written, either way, I feel that
sometimes some people do not entirely realize the power, influence, or effect
that words can have. Words can build confidence, tear it down, express
emotion, make one fall in love, cause various emotions, cause people to end
their lives, or even convince them they have a reason to live, among many other
things. I realize these do not always apply, depending on the person and
situation, but they are just some general and some extreme examples. I know, I think about
random and strange things, but I feel it's important. I just wanted to
write my opinion on this subject that has been on my mind for a few reasons
lately and has been affecting a few different parts of my life.
One example of this I have thought about lately is when you tell
someone "I love you" or "I'm in love with you." This
statement can be very powerful or even meaningless depending on
the person saying it, their feelings, the context in which it is
said, etc. Sometimes, some people carelessly throw those words
around to get something they want or just to make the other person not feel bad.
Other people take care to whom and when they use them because they view
them as special and only reserved for those whom you truly love.
Personally, I would never tell someone I loved them if I did not entirely
and truly feel that I knew I did. If I say that phrase to someone, it
means that I trust that person enough to share my feelings with and that I
count them among the people whom I would never want to live my life without.
I tend to be rather shy and usually (or used to) keep most of my emotions
to myself, so if I manage to tell someone that I love them (other than family
or something), it means I have put a lot of thought into it and really trust
that the person to whom I was speaking would not take it lightly. Some
people place less value on the words "I love you" and more on actions
that show it, which is fine. Yes, actions are important as well. If
you tell someone you love them and then go and want to be with or kiss someone
else, obviously you did not mean it and place little value on the words.
I do think it's important to try to show someone that you love them
because actions do show how you feel as well. Personally, I prefer both.
I think there is just something magical about seeing and hearing those
words that should not be taken for granted. I don't know about you, but nothing would make me happier than when someone I love says those words to me. Even writing them is pretty amazing ♥, but I still think it's nice to hear them.
Also, someone recently mentioned to me that saying "I love
you" over and over again makes it lose its meaning. I do not think
so at all, at least not for me. Sure, maybe if you do not mean it and if
you said it like 50 times a day maybe it might, but if the person saying it
still really means it and just wanted to express that, I think there is nothing
wrong with it. I think it's sweet, in fact. Who would not want
their girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/ whatever to tell them they love them
every day? I know that when I hopefully get married, I would love my
husband to tell me that he loves me quite often and I'd do the same in return.
Something else that kind of relates to
the previous topic that also shows the importance of words is when
someone writes something for another person. As someone who also loves to
write as well as read, I have written many different stories, research papers,
even some poems, etc. over the years. Of all these writings,veryfew
have I written specifically for and given to other people. In my opinion,
when you write something like a poem or story or letter, especially something
involving your emotions/feelings, it makes you somewhat vulnerable
and only with few people would I trust or love enough to share things like
that. I always dreamed that one day a boy whom I loved would write something
for me that I inspired. I don't know if I ever really believed it might
happen, since I tend to be such a hopeless dreamer, but it worked out for once. Yay! :) My boyfriend recently wrote me a poem and when I read it, I
literally had to stop myself from squealing with joy! (Haha!) It was
beautiful and I read it over and over again. I was so thrilled and loved
that he would take the time to do that for me. ♥ It was a dream come true;
he's so sweet.
Another topic that involves the effect words can have that I have
thought about recently is bullying. If you do not know, I am currently
studying to be an elementary school teacher, so bullying is a topic I have to
think about because it affects many students in schools everywhere today.
It has been brought up many times during my college education so far such
as what to do about bullying in the classroom, classroom management ideas to
help prevent it, and even social studies lessons to teach children why bullying
is wrong and how it makes others feel. I recently attended an education
club meeting at my university and the speaker gave a presentation on bullying.
Most of what she said I had heard before but she did give us a few good
examples of ways to incorporate prevention of bullying into the curriculum.
She told us about a few books that could be incorporated into
reading class on the topic and even gave us a few lesson plans we could use.
As a child, I did witness other children being bullied, not very
seriously as I have seen since then or in the news, but there has always been
bullying of some sort in schools. I never really experienced it much
firsthand. Sure, I did a little bit, all people most likely do at some point in
life. I was probably called "fat" or something like that a few
times, but nothing that really affected me too much. I was fortunately
always in a rather sheltered, strict school (private, Catholic) where much bullying
was not really seen or tolerated. I do remember one boy used to tease me
about my father being in the "mob" because he is
a somewhat intimidating-looking Italian man (haha!) but that was not
really a big deal either...I found it sort of comical! I am very aware
though that many students do experience extreme amounts of bullying in school
today. It's such a shame and I'll never entirely understand why or how
some people and children can not realize what they're doing
is wrong and how cruel bullying can be. I hate to see
a story on the news about a child who could not take being bullied anymore and
took their own life because of it. It's so sad. Much of this
bullying involves words, cruel words, either said in person or more
often today, on the internet. Anyway, hopefully as a future teacher, I
hope I can help explain to my students the seriousness of this issue and
incorporate bullying prevention into my lessons. That trite phrase they
used to tell children: "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can
never hurt me" is rather untrue. Yes, they cannot physically hurt
you, but emotional pain is also serious and can sometimes lead to worse things,
depending on the person.
Okay, that little (or large...) rant went in such random directions...love, poems,
and bullying in schools...totally normal! They are important/interesting
things to think about though. Comment below, I have a few questions for
you if you'd like to discuss my random topics (This is such a teacher
habit I've developed: always have questions prepared after reading
something...haha!):
What is
your opinion on the power/importance of words?
What do
you think about the importance of saying "I love you"?
Have
any of you ever had any experiences with bullying?
Have
you ever had a teacher who helped you in a situation where you were being
bullied or did they teach anything about it in your school as a child?
P.S. Sorry no pictures today...It would sort of distract from the general topic/message, if you get my point. I have lots of picture filled posts planned when I get a chance though. Soon hopefully! :)